it's not actually connected to the streaming proxy service, it just seemed to be. it must have been something else running under there.
i'm at somewhat of an impasse again. the flash is fixing it, which again seems to reduce it to a driver issue.
i'm running out of patience. i'm going to see if i can stabilize it on this install. if i can't, i'm going to do a final install and just flash on every use. i'm really sick of this, take no enjoyment in it and want to get back to what i was doing.